Not Being Able to Let Go
Last night Dymphna of Gates Of Vienna posted Blindsided Three Times, a post in which she invokes no small outrage, directed at some of the Sanity Squad.
For a factual and actual representation of events, see Dr Sanity's My Response To Blackmail Threats. The post is long- it does include the unabridged correspondence sent to her.
In addition, Dr Sanity posted Updates/Corrections On Last Post, in which she posted requests for clarifications and corrections.
In a correspondence with Dr Sanity, we noted that
It is ironic that posting corrections seems to be the topic du jour.
In three different exchanges, I noted my heartfelt mea culpa after I referred to Vlaams Belang in the third person singular. Why my errors are continually referenced remains a mystery, especially after I admitted to them and corrected them.
Prior to the podcast I had been doing some research on Belien and Dewinter and absentmindedly referred to the political party in that way.
Further, let's be clear. In the private conversation in question, you gently asked me if Vlaams Belang was also a person (knowing I was in err!). I said [in that private conversation immediately following the podcast- SC&A] that I realized I had misspoke. How your reference was twisted is curious, given that only one side of the conversation was recorded.
I would only hope that the requests for accuracy be applied to myself and my remarks as well.
Lastly, while I have never claimed to be an expert on the maze that is Belgian politics, I do have sightly more than 6 months experience in the European theatre.
In reading Dymphna's remarks, it is clear (and disappointing) to note that deliberate misrepresentations continue.
We have always been in accord with the ideologies of the Gates of Vienna blog. We have always been boosters of theirs and have always spoken of them with the highest regard.
No one on the Sanity Squad set out to deliberately hurt Dymphna.
Being able to 'let go' puts out fires, both real and imagined and allows life to go on. Sometimes, being able to let go can also heal. We have every right to be angry and hurt at those who have deliberately hurt us. There does come a time when anger, however, causes more pain and hurt than the original hurt itself.
The cost of not being able to let go is an always heavier emotional burden to carry.